RealBrideTalks- Celebrating my 1st Teej Festival

By Nandita


Come July/August and you are sure to enjoy 2 things- Monsoon & onset of Indian festivals. While I am not too sure of the former but I certainly am excited about the festive season to follow. To begin with- Today is Teej. Many of us associate Teej with the special sweet dish called ‘Ghevar’ (Teej= Ghevar, that was my understanding of the festival, until now that I am actually celebrating it for the 1st time!...Thanks to my wedding into a baniya household) and oh! Did I tell you that I am a Punjabi? Well that’s that.

Teej is welcomed in the onset of monsoon season in the months of July/August and is celebrated in Uttar Pradesh, Rajasthan and Haryana. It is usually a ladies special festival of the baniya and marwari community. Traditionally, a married woman would go to her mother's house for Teej and come back after Rakhi. In this way they would spend about 10 days of the summer with their parents. It is customary that, when a daughter goes to her parents' house, she takes sweet and salty savouries with her. Post her return, the mother-in-law gives clothes and jewellery to her as gifts.

Ladies are dressed in green attire in their fine jewellery and they savour sweets and other pakka khaana (fried food). A special lunch is organized by women for themselves. Swings are hung for entertainment of the ladies.

So now that was the theoretical information, let me share some practical celebration that happened today.

Since I don’t live that far from my parent’s home, No night stays happened...I can visit them anyday I want so no boundation on that. Skipping this we did have a get together with my 2 families and we exchanged gifts and sweets. (Special mention- Ghevar) Women get mehendi done on their hands before the festival and so did I. (Festival or no festival, I am crazy for mehendi anyway)

Here are some shots of the mehendi that I am going to flaunt for a few weeks now.


That’s my 1st teej mehendi!


Some wedding photographer-y posing happening here.

Today’s morning was filled with rich aroma of aloo-pooris being made, sweets served on platter and bayena being kept separate for my mom-in-law. Now, Bayena is a collection of sweets, savouries, clothes and shagun that a daughter-in- law gives to her mom-in-law on Teej. This is supposed to be bought in by the daughter in-law’s family prior to Teej.

My parents giving gifts for Teej  to me and Mr. Husband :)


That’s Bayena for you.

Both me and my Mom-in-law dressed up in ethnic wear for the occasion and did puja and then I gifted her my bayena. In return I got blessings and some gifts. :)

That’s me giving bayena to my dearest mom-in-law

A sweet experience for me today, imbibing a new culture, celebrating a new festival and sharing love with the family. Its good for a start no? Any more Punjabi-Baniya brides...share your experiences too.